Sex, Sexual Energy, and Sexual Healing!

Sex is considered one of the most powerful motivational forces of life. Our sexual impulses affect so many things how we act, what we do, and our choices. If that is not rightly harnessed, it can lead to greater problems. That is why sexual energy is learned as important energy. Without sex, our species would have been wiped out long ago. It’s the fundamental energy that has kept human society alive and has given human beings life. Sexual energy plays a key role in our creativity, personal power, self-worth, general health, self-confidence, and many more things. Can sexual energy be used for healing? What is sexual healing?

We have grown up in a society where sex is termed as a suppressive and hidden affair or ‘genitally armored’. Children are taught to stay away from touching their genitals or `have to hide their genitals. Masturbation is taboo or premarital sex is a sin. There is a preconceived notion in our society that sex is shameful and an immoral act to be indulged in. This is not about being moral or immoral, but knowing your body and its biological processes is important.  

High-level fear of sex or wrong beliefs about sex can lead to certain bodily chemical misbalances. From ancient times, sex is known to be a potent healing force. The basic principle of sexual healing is that one’s well-being is achieved by one’s own effort and own means. The body is competent enough to cure itself and it helps in maintaining a desired fitness level.

What is Sexual Energy?

Sexual energy is the most influential force in the world. It can stir our lust for life, stimulate creativity, heal many bodily ailments, and help us in reaching many heights of sensuous ecstasy. In some cases, sexual energy is misused in the form of frequent orgasm, ejaculation, and making the participants greedy or reckless state of longing. However, for a sizable portion of our society, sex serves as an act of releasing body tension.

In Tantra, sexual energy is a source that is used for healing the mind, body, and spirit and helps in stimulating creative resources.  Sexual energy and creative energy are the same. This is expressed in 3 ways- to reproduce or to have babies, exploring artistic creativity that involves writing, painting, art, to do acting, or playing music.  The third aspect is all about creating ourselves how we want them to be. This involves jobs, friendships, and relationships, etc.

What is sexual healing?

This is a treatment where a person’s internal turmoil and emotional disturbances are healed by good loving romantic sex. Sexual healing is a process where sex or sexual energy can be used for healing and this is also something we can streamline our relationship’s sexuality in & of itself. It is more of a rehabilitation process.

The highest, most and the surest demonstration of this love is its physical aspect. The deepest and darkest aspects of our lifestyle are also expressed through sexuality.  With the use of this energy, the healing process allows human beings to balance the darker and lighter side of their intent. Once the internal balance is attained, it leads to external balance. There is a state of congruity between the internal and external world. Sex is a wonderful path to travel and a road for sacred pleasure.

Learning to incorporate and build this energy will not only help in healing many sexual problems but also many psychological and emotional issues like self-worth, judgment, mood swings,  happiness, and unhappiness along with physical demonstrations of the same conditions.

Different Aspects of Sexual Healing

1. Process of Sexual Healing: It’s an individual process and varies from person to person because the problems are different for different people. How can you prescribe the same sexual heal method for a person who has a porn addiction and another who has a complete aversion to sex? People should find innovative ways of revisiting and relating to sex and finding ways out for past sexual strains that might have affected relationships to sex, developing a chord with the body, and changing the thoughts about controlling or losing control. To entirely incorporate this process, the person will have to reclaim his authentic sexuality.
2. Does it heal all the partners or only one? We live in a world that is one and we can’t live in a vacuum.  If you’re healing yourself that means you’re adding heal to this world. It’s very difficult for one partner to start the process of sex healing and allowing his/her partner to have an irregular pattern of sexual experience. Truth is that it catalyzes another partner to have a similar process of sexual healing.
3. Does healing need two participants or can it be had via masturbation alone? Sex healing involves developing a relationship with sexuality separating anyone via masturbation. Most of the sexual damage happens in combination with the relationship with another person. The trauma that is due to relationships is healed in the same context of a relationship.
4. What about sexual partners? To have more than one sexual partner is something that comes mostly from fear of intimacy, commitment, or fear of losing freedom. It is more of a rebellious attitude. Barely one or two issues, the majority of us are successful in developing steady sexual relationships and particularly sexual healing. If he/she develops the relationship with an individual and establishes trust with the same person and uses the stability of intimacy to expand his/her sexuality.

How to cultivate sex energy?

• Find a solitary place where there is nobody other than your partner. It doesn’t matter whether you lie down on the bed or sit down if you are comfortable with the environment.
• First, close the eyes and allow the sexual imagination to flow within you. Human mind is heavily aphrodisiac (drug that brings sexual instinct). Try to find out in which part of your body the sexual energy is activated other than genitals. Just aware of your senses.
• Try to feel the sensations that are growing inside you and start to stimulate gradually yourself or your partner. At that time your aim is not to achieve the orgasm but to gain the magical energy that can heal you.
• When you reach the peak of your orgasm, stop there. Though it might seem difficult as your body is never used to have orgasm and ejaculation. It’s completely safe to practice ejaculation control.
• Once you abandon stimulating yourself, try to place the tongue to roof of the mouth and inhale deep into the stomach focusing on the spot 2 inches below navel. When you exhale, and then try to focus on crown at top of the head. Repeat this process 4 times.
• After final exhale, slowly open the eyes and allow the energy to spread into the heart and fill the rest of the body that overflows the sensual energy.
• Repeat the process 3 times that means the energy will be multiplied as you practice more